Your email address will not be published. We would love to hear from you:. Display a Gravatar image next to my comments. Receive our latest posts in your inbox! Some really great points, the end of number 7 throws me off though. There really should not be any type of attraction towards another person, and if there is cut that person off immediately before it grows into something more. This is wrong on so many levels. Might as well normalize cheating.
This is just nonsense. The best advice is to break off the relationship and not look back. Just let it go, and learn from the experience.
Thanks Jack. I am in a situation I can only describe as weird and I think I just need to vent. I married a very controlling and possessive man. Everything I do was wrong and he made it feel like I should just stay at home and be at his beck and call. Well, the relationship has run its course, but, like a fool, I wandered into another controlling and possessive man.
I find my life situation perplexing since I consider myself well educated with a prestigious career. He insists on knowing who I talk to and what they said. He only wants me to do activities with him and no one else.
He just blocked me from attending a running clinic because guys would also be attending. Here are 13 signs of possessiveness that may indicate your partner is crossing the line — as well as what to do about it. If you always have texts and missed calls from your partner, consider it a red flag. A lot of possessiveness can be chalked up to an insecure attachment style. Jake Porter, LPC , a licensed professional counselor. This is why they freak out whenever you try to have fun without them.
While some level of jealousy is bound to occur in a relationship , take note if your S. It is used to shame you and make you be on the defensive. Aimee Harris-Newon, Psy. If your partner genuinely thinks one of your friends or family members is bad news, go ahead and hear them out. According to Gilza Fort-Martinez, MS, LMFT , a licensed marriage and family therapist, they may be sabotaging your friendships to pivot your attention and time further towards them.
In extreme cases, it may also be a way for them to isolate you from caring friends and family so that they gain full control of the relationship. Are you expected to check in at a certain time? Answer their call on the first ring?
Or hang out with your S. Time apart is an element of a healthy relationship, after all. Again, this often comes back to insecurity. They will go out of their way, just to keep their little secret a little while longer. It becomes a game to them; almost as if a lion is hunting its prey. If your boyfriend starts controlling who you associate with early on, that's a clear warning sign.
He will constantly ask you who is calling you. You won't even be able to start a text message without him asking who you're texting. At the beginning of a relationship, a little jealousy here and there is rather cute. The extra attention tends to be somewhat flattering at first.
But, you have to know where that thin line stands between being a possessive boyfriend and being over-protective. A possessive person is a natural manipulator. Your boyfriend will show his controlling side from the very beginning. We tend to not pick up on these little signs because they are so insignificant, that we overlook them.
For instance, you're at the mall, and a group of your classmates walks up. You begin talking about school, and then you realize that your boyfriend is not beside you anymore. You tell everyone that you have to go, and you set out to find your man. You finally spot him sitting by himself in the food court, at a table in the very back.
Your first sign is that your boyfriend didn't even stay around to meet your friends. You would think that he'd want them to approve of him, but he doesn't care the least.
As you sit down, you see a hint of frustration in his eyes. After asking him what happened, he tells you that he knows a couple of the classmates from his past. He warns you that they are not the kind of people that you'd want to be caught alone with. It's strange at first, but then you start to feel as if he is only trying to look out for you.
Now, he's put negative thoughts in your mind about those friends; and pulled you closer to him. These signs are so simple that you will overlook them, even though the red flag is right there in your face. That is why it is so important to watch for early warning signs. It only gets more intense from here. Your man will try to keep you away from people who pose a threat to him.
If he feels that a certain person might interfere with his master plan, he'll come up with random reasons that he doesn't want you talking to this person. A recent study in psychology states that a possessive man will try to turn you against your family and friends. Therefore you have no support group anymore. Now, you'll be left with no one but him to depend on.
When you've just started a relationship with someone, you don't really pay attention to him reading your texts over your shoulder. A possessive man starts off with him simply disliking one of your friends. It will eventually lead to him forbidding you to see even your family.
A possessive man tries to cut off anyone who might get in between you and him. In his eyes, everyone is a threat. He will be so used to making up stories about certain people that he will begin to believe them. It is a serious problem when your man starts believing his nonsense. It will become difficult to separate the real world from his imagination.
Men that isolate themselves from society are sure signs that they may be possessive. A controlling man would rather be alone; in a setting that he is in complete control of. When he is around groups of people, he will get nervous, and his temper will grow thin fast. Possessive people cannot handle groups of people. It can cause panic attacks or even a breakdown.
But more often than not, they will turn to their anger or violence to deal with whatever is making them uncomfortable. After the first couple of weeks, a possessive boyfriend will start telling you how he doesn't approve of your mini skirts. He'll have a fit if you try to leave the house with a low cut shirt on.
These are early signs of a jealous and possessive boyfriend. When he starts controlling what you wear each day, it is time to take a break from this possessive relationship. You are a grown woman who does not need anyone to play the parent role. Put a stop to it before it is too late.
When a man is possessive, that emotion only gets stronger and stronger as time goes by. Your boyfriend shouldn't be controlling when you use your cell phone. So, if answering a text message or a phone call makes him mad, he is possessive and very controlling. Simple things such as responding to a text message or a phone call will cause a problem in a possessive relationship. Your relationship is in a very unhealthy place if he can't even control his jealousy when you use your cell phone.
It is ridiculous for an electronic to have so much control over his emotions. But, he will not see it as him having a problem. He will point the finger at you and make you feel like you did something wrong.
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